Suffering is a painful state of the body as a result of cold, hunger, injury and other troubles.
Suffering is often identified with the feeling of suffering, but this is inaccurate.
Suffering as a feeling
Suffering as a feeling — (heartache) can be in the absence of real suffering, just as in the presence of real troubles, a person can have an optimistic and positive attitude, without experiencing suffering. Characteristic of people with negative thinking. Typical manifestations of suffering are resentment, crying, lamentations, sadness, frustration, grief.
Suffering as an experience, as a feeling of suffering, is often identified with suffering as an event and a fact, but this is inaccurate. The feeling of suffering (hunger, cold, mental pain) can be in the absence of real suffering, just as in the presence of real troubles, a person can have an optimistic and positive attitude, without experiencing suffering.
Suffering can be a way to demand from another person: you see how bad it is for me, so you, you bastard, are obliged … A peculiar way to tie and pull from another person.
People of the experiencing type (and similar societies) measure the magnitude of value by the time and depth of suffering when it is lost.
Našlė verkia - tai reiškia, kad myli. "Kiekvienas tikras troškimas turi būti įgytas per kančią..."
It is clear that this is not the most reasonable approach. People of the active type (and similar societies) measure the value of value by willingness to obtain and care in using.
The wife cares — it means she loves.
What is the nature of the feeling of suffering? Most often it is learned behavior, sometimes with the goal (conditional benefit) to attract attention, once justification or self-justification — through convincing oneself or others that the loss was appreciated, and often is a pity game. If the child was upset and burst into tears when he broke the cup, he will not be punished. And if you’re not upset…
Suffering even in difficult situations is not necessary, there are better ways of behaving.
Viešpats man suteikė tris nuostabias savybes:
Courage to fight where there is a chance to win,
Patience — accept what you can not win and
Mind is the ability to distinguish one from the other.
And again, see the article Heartache below.