Ką daryti, jei „užstrigote“

What does it mean to be stuck, to get confused, to be in a stalemate? A person who finds himself in such a situation feels as if he is stuck in a quagmire and cannot move. It seems to him that it is useless to call for help, because no one cares about him. This is most often associated with problems in marriage, relationships or at work, low self-esteem and dissatisfaction with oneself.

This state is a signal that it is time to change something in life. However, we are held back by fear and helplessness, and as a result we sink deeper and deeper.

HOW TO GET OUT

Once in a hopeless situation, we lose the ability to think clearly: everything is covered in a veil of despair and other negative emotions. Still, it’s important to at least try not to lose heart. After all, in a place that we take for a quagmire, opportunities, resources and tips can be hidden — they will help us find a foothold.

Despite the feeling of complete hopelessness, there will definitely be a way out. Sometimes it helps to look at the situation differently and try to change your attitude towards it. But if this alone is not enough, perhaps the following tips will help you.

Take the time to weigh the pros and cons

It is not easy, but it is necessary to assess the situation. Set aside at least 15 minutes a day to reflect on the current situation. Try to be as frank with yourself as possible: it is important to understand what exactly does not allow you to get off the ground.

It is equally important to discover the excuses you are trying to hide behind and write down any, even the most absurd, ideas and solutions. Taking responsibility for your choices means taking back control of your actions. It takes a lot of effort, but after them comes self-confidence. No one can interfere with your desire to move forward.

Priimk situaciją

Coming to terms with circumstances is the first step to dealing with them. This does not mean that you are satisfied with what is happening. You accept everything as it is in order to decide where to go next, plan the steps and begin to forge new paths.

Think over your actions

Yes, you still have no idea what exactly to do, but consider any possible options. For example, talk to an impartial person: he will help by expressing his point of view and, perhaps, offering an unexpected way out that simply did not occur to you.

KAS DAR?

It must be realized that we all need a different amount of time to release: it all depends on the individual and the specific situation. Don’t compare yourself to others. You are unique and your circumstances are not the same for everyone. Ahead is a difficult path with obstacles, not a marathon. Although it may seem like taking too long to move in small steps, this is the most effective way.

Whenever you reflect on your current situation, think about the steps you are taking now and mark the steps you have taken so you can see what you have achieved. Of course, it is important to take responsibility and plan further actions, but it is even more important not to blame yourself for past and future mistakes. Sometimes you have to change directions. Daily attempts solve a lot, but pauses are necessary. Taking care of yourself is part of the plan to get out of the crisis. Be mindful of your health, indulge in pleasure, and practice positive self-talk.

Don’t be afraid of delays and unexpected obstacles. Obstacles can get in the way, but whether you get to your intended goal is up to you. Look at failures and difficulties as opportunities with which you become stronger.

In some cases, the fight seems pointless due to anxiety and other neurotic disorders such as attention deficit hyperactivity disorder. In order to be completely free, first of all, you need to solve psychological problems.

If, despite your best efforts, you still feel trapped, psychotherapy is your best bet. Find a competent specialist and remember: everything will be fine.

About the author: Daniel Matthew is a family psychologist, psychotherapist, and neurotic disorder specialist.